FKA Twigs’s story demonstrates the uselessness of #MeToo if we refuse to learn from it, and act more intelligently

FKA Twigs in a stretch as she performs onstage
FKA Twigs in a stretch as she performs onstage

Singer, songwriter, dancer, and this week’s #MeToo cover girl FKA Twigs, the woman whose initials don’t stand for anything, who ‘just wanted a selection of letters that sounded quite kind of masculine and strong,’ filed a lawsuit against career violent bad boy Shia LaBoeuf for sexual assault, battery, and emotional distress.

She met him in 2018 on a movie set, years after he became more famous for his execrable behavior than for his acting, and got involved in a relationship with him.

WHAT COULD POSSIBLY GO WRONG???

Cue the tired Greek chorus of female voices asking the same damn question…


How much better would Twitter be without the Toxic Left?

If you’re even a little active on Twitter, the sudden toxicity drop mid-January after the platform removed right-wing QAnon-connected accounts following the Trump-fuelled terrorist attack on Washington was nothing short of breathtaking.

One day, you saw the usual trending hashtags from trolls, cyberbullies, and bots from both ideological sides: #TrumpIsNotWell #TrumpSavesAmerica #TrumpForever #TrumpTrainWreck #Trump2020 #DestroyTrump #TrumpsMyBabyDaddy.

(Okay I made that last one up. Ha ha! No one has sex with Donald Trump anymore!)

The next day, you clicked your Twitter button, and trending topics spanned the sublime to the ridiculous: The latest news on the pandemic and public vaccines progress…


This is a problematic article with some good points, but with some poorly thought out ideas and mixing a couple of statistics.

The '1 out of 4' statistic I *think* you're referring to is the one popularized in the '90s I think, that 1 out of 4 college girls were sexually assaulted. The statistic was widely quoted and shared and taken to be true but it's since been questioned and largely discredited. The 97% stat re sexual harassment is far more accurate (and I'd say the other 3% are lying ;P)

@bmmonsterman correctly points out that you're conflating the two…


Nah, the world doesn't need another goddamn holy book. If it's race and gender neutral the Loony Left will jump all over it like Matt Gaetz on a prom queen and I guarantee their holy crusade will suck every bit as badly as the ones based on other holy books :)


Too many preach misogyny and teach victimhood. Tolerance for religious toxicity ENDS NOW.

Pretty young girl in a white religious dress sitting in the window of an old cathedral and smiling into the sunlight
Pretty young girl in a white religious dress sitting in the window of an old cathedral and smiling into the sunlight

A sexually twisted white Atlanta churchgoer murdered Asian employees at spas targeted repeatedly by police for prostitution stings. The accused, claiming to have a sex addiction, frequented two of the places before his deadly attack. Racism may well have played a role, but largely overlooked is the Christian evangelical obsession with unauthorized sexual pleasure. It’s about the worst sin anyone can commit, and the one evangelicals struggle with the most.

The shooter was a Baptist, a notoriously misogynist and sexually repressed religious ‘brand’, and himself a member of a particular church so lacking in Christian compassion they’ve expelled him. …


Even white people. Especially white people!

The Dionne Quintuplets looking alike wearing identical flowered dresses
The Dionne Quintuplets looking alike wearing identical flowered dresses

I t’s considered racist to say about other groups of people, “You all look alike to me.” But…what if they really do? Including your own tribe?

My roommate came home one afternoon — I worked, she was still in school — and said, “Oh my God, you wouldn’t believe these three girls I saw today. I literally couldn’t tell them apart!”

Seems three blonde, pretty little Barbie dolls sat together, with the same manufactured look — hair, makeup, clothes.

“Literally, Nicole, I couldn’t tell them apart. They were like little clones. …


When people are jerks, do we increase our own suffering with our own layered mis/interpretations?

I read many of stories about crappy male and/or white behavior, some threatening, some anger-provoking, some seemingly banal like the woman who was stopped by a creepy guy who wanted her to see his cute puppy.

I guess it would have made more impact if she’d been, like, twelve, but she was a grown-up in no danger. Some days you just don’t have much to write about!

Another pedestrian story detailed a woman accosted in a largely non-threatening manner by middle-aged drunk guys on a subway. …


Sometimes it works when he has something to lose, too

Graphic of a man in an office touching a woman’s arm. The word ‘No!’ above her head
Graphic of a man in an office touching a woman’s arm. The word ‘No!’ above her head

We drove toward the lot where I’d parked my for an early-morning pickup by John, my boss. I felt no trepidation as we approached; we’d enjoyed a perfectly great day together at a tech expo in New York City. John didn’t mind driving in Manhattan like I did.

As we pulled up to the curb he put his arm around my neck. “How about a kiss goodbye?”

I pulled away. It wasn’t the WTF moment you might imagine.

“No, no, that’s not appropriate!” I stammered. “We need to keep it professional.”

“Oh, come on!” he said. “Just a little kiss!”


We can’t do anything about Andrew Cuomo, but we can start setting boundaries with today’s baby Cuomos-in-training

New York Governor Andrew Cuomo being interviewed by a reporter
New York Governor Andrew Cuomo being interviewed by a reporter

And you thought former-senator-now-Prez Joe Biden was bad.

Six women have come forward with multiple claims accusing New York Governor Andrew Cuomo of inappropriate touching, questions, and potential ‘trial balloons’ to see if they were amenable to a sexual affair.

The predictable accused’s response to the outrage began with the usual denials, and, as more accusers stepped forward, the customary slow pivot to reluctant admission that certain actions from the past may have caused unintended pain to others, followed by the venerable utterly unconvincing apologies.

One response one never hears from these touchy-feely Old Boys: Asking why the women didn’t…


John Oliver trended on Twitter the other night after someone pulled up a not-terribly prescient interview he'd done with Stephen Colbert in which he noted that Markle may not have really thought through marrying into the Royal Windsucks and that he wouldn't be surprised if she pulled out at the last minute. She says herself she had no idea what it was like. …

Nicole Chardenet

Self-help centrist in the Murky Middle. Egalitarian & feminism critic. Visit me and reclaim your power on Grow Some Labia! www.nicolechardenet.com

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