Don’t like how you’re treated? Don’t like the racism and misandry? Feel abused? Tell us why. Yes, I’m serious.

Man in a hoodie with his hands to his face, boxes in the background, feeling despair
Photo by Christian Erfurt on Unsplash

Women must know more than men about how to be a real man because it seems like 910% of advice articles written about How To Be A Better Man are written by women.

It’s embarrassingly sexist. Remember the days when almost exclusively men wrote articles and whole books teaching women…


Are you only holding half the problem accountable?

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“I’m not allowed to do this. I’m not allowed to feel that. Why aren’t <my tribe> allowed to do, say, think, feel, or want X?”

It’s ironic how the chronically aggrieved happily backstroke in self-appointed victimhood regarding whoever they label their oppressors, but indignantly deny it if you point out…


In these paranoid times, disrupted logistics made a package from an old Spanish dude in Altamonte Springs sinister

Bomb squad scrutinizing a package
“The recipient suspects victim feminists, snowflake antiracists, or Trump supporters. What’s Medium?” Public domain photo from Picryl

Who the hell was this Spanish guy sending me a package from Altamonte Springs, Florida?

I don’t know anyone from Altamonte Springs. Sure, I was born in and grew up in Florida but I can remember exactly two Hispanic Americans: A Puerto Rican lady in our church and a Cuban…


Smokers, the obese and drug addicts aren’t the same. Here’s why.

If these are your loved ones, might want to put off Christmas shopping for them until, oh, maybe a few days before Christmas. Photo by Michael_Swann on Flickr CC0 2.0

When sexual headcase Robert Aaron Long killed eight people, including six Asian women at Atlanta spas in March and got arrested because he didn’t kill himself the way many mass shooters do, an outraged public demanded justice. That same month, Ahmad Al Aliwi Alissa was taken into custody after killing…


Men, I offer my own experience and encourage you: Please, go forth and write!

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Everyone’s tribe is under siege, especially in the Ignited States of America. Victimhood culture’s self-destructive ideology has infected the bodies politic and social like a metastasized cancer. America falls apart before our eyes, slouching toward potential failed state status. We hate each other.

Still, we’re all victims, legitimately. …


My worst job was a case study in Internet-boom corporate misogyny and a toxic masculine sales strategy

Fiber Optic chandelier that looks like shark’s jaws
This is what working for Fiberphonophobia reminds me of Giant shark’s jaws. Image by Jan Hrasko from Pixabay

“This is my letter of resignation.” I pushed it across the desk. My boss glanced at it — there wasn’t much to read, just short impeccable corporatespeak saying, in essence: “I’m fucking off now. Goodbye, and thanks for all the fish.”

I don’t remember what he said. Probably, “Okay.” Maybe…


It was the longest three minutes of my life. I think what I did at the bus stop mattered.

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I hadn’t been long in Canada while I waited for the bus, sitting on some low stone steps, on a lovely sunny warm day. He approached, carrying a McDonald’s bag.

I immediately went on full red alert. He was large, scary-looking, and black.

Yeah, that last part’s not supposed to…


Without contributing to misogyny, or juicing your own misandry

Daphne running from Apollo statue
“NO MEANS NO!” Photo by Rafael Edwards on Flickr CC0 2.0

“I’m from Portugal,” he said in his thick fresh-off-the-boat accent. “I’ve been living here for seventy years. My wife died, and I am alone now. I live right over there.” He pointed to a building across the street from mine.

Oh yeah, I could see where this was going.

I…


Porn created by women *for* women had to be light-years better than male-created porn, right? Right?

Attractive black woman with short-cropped hair reclining senusuously against a brown background in sensuous leopard tights
Photo by Arianna Jadé from Pexels

Feminist porn? WTF? Porn created by women for women? I jumped at the chance to attend Toronto’s Feminist Porn Awards several years ago.

I knew women were making female-centered porn which I assumed, I hoped, meant it would suck less than male porn. My friend Janessa, far more a connoisseuse


But is porn the problem, or *mainstream* porn? What does ‘better’ porn look like?

Man facing away from porn on his computer, hand on his head, contemplative
Photo by Jens Karlsson on Flickr CC0 2.0 (and a violation of Medium guidelines altered out)

Edited to add a gay ethical porn site in the list. Thanks for my buddy Anthony Eichberger for calling it to my attention!

When I was six or seven my mother took my brother and me to an annual Orlando fair. …

Nicole Chardenet

I say what others think. Ideologically central. Never been busted for belly dancing while driving. Reclaim your power on Grow Some Labia! nicolechardenet.com

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